- Give in to your emotions. If you want to cry? Then you go ahead and cry. If you want to laugh? Throw your head back and cackle. If you want to curl up in bed and listen to depressing music with your curtains drawn? Go for it!
- ...but don't give in to the urge to gain 30lb. I know the chocolate and icecream will be there for you - trust me, it will always be there for you. On your hips and thighs and your sides and your belly and your flabby arms. I'm not saying don't eat it... but moderation is key. Exercise is also a great way to release anger and feel good. Go for a run. Do some kick boxing. Stretch. Getting moving is part of moving on.
- Don't be pathetic. Don't complain to your friends about how your love life sucks, every single day. Eventually the whole supportive friend act will get exhausting and they will gently explain that nobody really gives a rat's ass if he was the love of your life. Life goes on. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and expecting everyone to feel sorry for you. It holds you back.
- Delete. Seriously. Delete his number, unfriend him on Facebook, delete every picture of the two of you, get rid of the saved messages. It is very important to get rid of all those pictures of him you taped to the wall above your desk. And don't keep checking his Facebook to see if he's happy or not - just don't. Chances are you've memorized his number, but if he ever shoots you a text? Hit him back with a "Who's this?" Let him know there is no room in your phone for his number. More importantly, let yourself know this.
- Stop hating on him with all your friends. Seriously. Don't do this. It slows down the whole moving on process. Plus, your friends don't have any reason to hate him. Chances are neither do you. Accept that whatever happened in your relationship was just as much your fault as his, forgive him and forgive yourself. Stop bitching with your friends. And if, God forbid, you have a friend or friends who won't let it go... cause you gotta get that girlie in line.
- Learn to be polite, if not nice or friendly. Don't go trying to best friend him back into your life or anything, but saying 'hi' or giving a little wave never killed anybody. Even if you're being cold shouldered, you can be the bigger person.
- Do not find rebound guys. This one is really really really important. Don't use someone to get over someone else; you will hurt their feelings, you will hurt your feelings and you will be very sorry. It's complicated and it's ugly. Before you leap into another relationship, give yourself time. Time to figure out your feelings for old guy, your feelings for new guy, your feelings about you, time to get adjusted to the weight of your baggage.
- Your friends are your support group. Remember that good friends are there for you, they want you to be happy, they want you to smile. They're on your side. This is a great time to spend time with them - it'll make you happy, boost your mood. Go see movies, go shopping, go out for lunch, talk on the phone. Keep your friends close.
- Be happy. This one might be easier said than done, but it isn't that complicated. Being happy is a choice. You can choose to be happy. It really isn't what happens to you, but how you react to what happens to you. Decide that no matter what happens, you're gonna smile. Smile even if you don't feel like smiling. It's good for your health and better for your happiness.
Now good luck, girlies! We're letting go and it feels good :D
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