Laying in bed writing up blog posts when I ought to be doing some sort of homework... and

My ambition tun up so loud the knob a guh pop off.

But there's something I wanted to discuss here. And it's this: Can guys and girls be just friends? So far, the only person I figured I coulda discussed this with seriously is now my exboyfriend and when I brought it up, got all upset.

So, okay.

Really though.

Can two people be just friends? Just BEST friends, to be exact. I'm not talking about those friends of the opposite sex who you just have on your bbm contact list and see once a month and hail up on the road and ting.

I mean, someone you'd consider your best friend.

Because I have, maybe, three current best friends of the opposite sex.

And lemme say: I've had or currently have feelings for every guy I would have considered my best friend. True story.

I'm not saying I'm in love with them all. But either romantic or sexual feelings... for all of them. And think about it with me. How many of your opposite sex friendships can you apply that to?

I think it's just the principle of attraction. You're attracted to people who possess certain qualities. And for you to consider someone your best friend, you must see something in them that you find makes you want to know them or be close to them. There must be something that attracts you.

Maybe it's one-sided, maybe it's mutual. Maybe it's purely sexual feelings to season and spice up friendship. Maybe it's friends with benefits. Or maybe friendship on fire (my favourite type, because it usually leads to some awesome relationships). Maybe some serious Taylor Swift, guitar-strumming, Teardrops on my Guitar, we-should-be-more-than-friends type of romantic attraction to your best friend.

Whatever it is.

I just don't believe that two people can be just friends. And that's just the way it is.

Friendly yours,
me.

Ben and Jerry are the only men I'll EVER need in my life... and

I'm too flawless for problems with men. 

No, but seriously. I'm not eager to jump into any relationship where I'm gonna have problems with guys. I have a chance to sort my shit out. And I want to enjoy this single time as much as possible. This is what I've missed for the last year and a half. I wanna enjoy every moment.

Sixth form is turning into quite a fun time. I mean, I'm settling nicely and whatnot. I don't feel like I belong, yet... but I definitely feel more comfortable. I know most of my classmates, I've made tonnes of new friends, I can roam the place and not get lost, I have a tie and I feel good.

Today, I spent a good two and a half hours sitting on the grass with a few of my bestest friends having a little chat about feelings. It got pretty deep a couple of times, including a few tears shed over things we couldn't change and aren't nearly old enough to be letting bother us... but y'know. It's twenty twelve. We're forty before we're eighteen.

I genuinely have had some of the most amazing friends in my life these past few years. It's perfect :D

Short blog post because I have Literature homework on the historical context of Othello to research and everything, so I'll be off in a minute.

But mek I seh this: a lie mi a tell. There's this boy and if he wanted, I'd deh wid him like a nuh ntn. Anyways. Homework time.

Yours dishonestly,
me.

By noticing that I hadn't noticed my ex, I jinxed it... and

I saw him today, for about half a minute. And it was the damn longest half a minute of my entire week. Not even funny. I was in the middle of a conversation about Laffy Taffy... and it ended up something like "This is my fourth one for th--..." and then "Uh, um?"

And so I've come to a conclusion. I'm an idiot.

Anyways.

Sixth form is ridiculously hard. And I'm sorta an emotional wreck who starts sobbing and heaving and shaking when I watch Jillian's X-Factor audition, or videos of soldiers returning home, or listening to music... or when my earphones stop working in one side.

It's like I'm on my period. Only, I'm not.

I'm just... miserable. And perpetually frustrated and upset and overwhelmed.


And I want a hug. A huuuuuuge hug. One of those warm, envelope hugs. I want a hug that makes me feel small, warm and safe. I want a hug from someone who isn't afraid to hold me when I cry.

I want icecream. I want sixth form to be easier. I want my parents to have more faith in me. I want icecream. I want closure. I want icecream. I don't want GMED. And have I mentioned that I want some icecream? ...yeah. Icecream helps.

So, currently seeking a hug giver who will appear with icecream and love and watch silly, stupid cartoons with me. A hug giver in particular. You know I'm talking about you.

Yours PMS-ingly,
me.

I think my least favourite flavour of icecream is pralines and pecans... and

Pralines and Pecans is currently the flavour of icecream in my cup. It's like a sick kind of torture; I hate it but I continue to shovel it down. And I know I'm gonna have the worst sort of rash or supm tomorrow. Worse so if I start sneezing down the place. Stupid nuts >.<"

Today was such a blissfully easy day that I think the universe is setting for me. I mean, I had three classes. Literature, Sociology and Communication Studies. All of which went smoothly and flawlessly. Had a couple of good laughs in all my classes, the teachers are cool, I have epic friends...

And I didn't see my exboyfriend even once.

It's sorta like he's... vanished. It's weird. Can't say I don't miss him, because I do. But it's complicated. It's good that I'm not seeing him all the time and whatnot. It's healthy.

I should really be catching up on the notes from the classes I've missed but it's almost midnight and I really just wanna read obscene poetry until I fall asleep.

Goodnight, sleepy world.

Most dairy-intoxicatedly,
me.

Prompt: "Booze."

How often do you drink?
Rarely. I never used to drink, but now I go overboard maybe once a month? And then sober up for about four weeks to get wasted again.. I firmly believe getting wasted every now and then is good for my mental and emotional health. Don't even argue with me.

How do you feel about people who drink for the hype?
To each, his own. If you think getting wasted at parties looks "cool" then by all means, gulp it down like it's going outta style. But you know what is cool? Self control. Think about that, bro. Peer pressure is a terrible thing to fall victim to. Only baby fish swim with the current; big fish swim against it.

Fake drunks.
Annoying, at worst. Usually harmless and fun to take the mickey outta. It's always funny when idiots at parties make asses out of themselves for attention. So, if you see a chick who's had two jello shots and a teaspoon of liquor stumbling around and spewing more sh*t than a backed-up toilet, then sit back and watch the show.

What's your favourite drink?
I had a Christmas martini minus the Vermouth once, and it knocked the socks offa me. Six parts vodka, (to one part dry Vermouth) and a teaspoon of peppermint Schnapps.. and then drop a candy cane in there. But that's for classy mofos only... I'm more of a green apple vodka and cranberry girl. And if you mix ting and vodka, I'd be about that life too.

Are there limitations to your alcohol lifestyle?
I really only drink at home... or at a friend's home. If I'm out with Daddy, then I'll drink only if he's drinking. And I never drink at big parties with people I don't know... especially if the drinks are being mixed where I can't see them and/or by someone I can't recognise/don't trust. For obvious reasons.

Would you consider yourself an alcholic? 
Me?! No way. I'm usually the sober stick in the mud to take away people's cups when it gets a little too out-of-hand. I'm all about that self control life.

What do you think about people who drink to kill feelings?
Hand. Me. A. Cup. No, seriously. If you're someone who drinks when you don't want to think sober, but only if the drink is good, then you and I could be great friends. It's so much easier to be honest with yourself when you're thinking with a drink in your hand and a straw in your mouth. Plus, the only warm fuzzy feeling I let influence my thinking is the buzz of booze in my blood.

Do your parents know about your drinking? 
My mother is beautifully and blissfully unaware, but my Dad buys me vodka when I behave, ask nicely and promise to be reasonable. He knows I drink, but he trusts my judgment enough not ask me to stop.

Have you ever been drunk and gone swimming/driven/thrown up/gotten into a fight/passed out/had sex?
The closest I've got to wild behaviour, under the influence was playing "I Never" and after a while, I was still sober enough to switch out the vodka for Sprite in everyone's shot glass. It pays to be the soberest one. Just... don't tell my friends about the switch out, okay? They all still swear they can play an hour of I Never without passing out.

I need the motivation to get off my ass and exercise more often... and

I don't understand why it's not okay to be emotionally withdrawn.

Why isn't it okay to just want to do what I need to do to get out of this place faster? To leave with fewer casualties of my grenade explosion. I'm a trainwreck. What's wrong with wanting to be an empty train?

On my list of priorities, jumping into another relationship falls somewhere between 'eating a raw egg' and 'reading Twilight backwards'. Getting married? Sounds like a bad idea. Having kids? I don't think so.

I don't want to need people. I don't want to want people. As a matter of fact, I need to learn to let go of people who don't want to be held on to. I need to grow a spine and stop behaving like a little child.

Emotions are messy and people are confusing. But books? Books never change their minds, books never sleep with the neighbour, books never get drunk and gamble away your lives together. But a book? A book is about as solid and as dependable as the very paper and the ink it's made from.

You can never have high expectations of a book. You can't think a book loves you more than it actually does. A book can't break up with you after twenty years. A book can't cheat on you. A book can't kill you in your sleep.

Sounds like books are the way to go.

Plus, I think I'm quite generous. It's a good thing that I like to pull away from people. I mean, I'm confusing and broken and damaged. I could write an entire post about how broken and damaged I am, but I won't. And those I don't hurt, I push away.

And I'm honest to God sick and tired of being that girl who hurts people.

Another thing I don't understand is this: the friendzone. These thirsty jerks who complain to me about "friendzoning" them don't seem to get it.

I've been approached many times by boys who complain very bitterly about being placed in the friendzone, either by me or by someone else. One had the audacity to say to me: "If yuh nuh waah be mi girl, mi nuh waah be your friend."

And I've heard the cliche: "Saying 'let's be friends' is the same as 'the dog died but you can still keep it'.." and I am calling it. Bullshit. See? I called it.

How is my (or anyone else's) friendship comparable to a dead dog? I assure you, it is not the same as rotting animal flesh marred with the stain of death and decay.

My friendship is not a consolation prize for my vagina. If I consider you a friend, despite your romantic interest in me, then why do you feel as though I'm giving you some sloppy, half-assed gift?

You best be grateful you ain't get a restraining order.

Yours withdrawnly,
me.

There are songs that never fail to break my heart... and

They're just generally so beautiful it hurts. They're not necessarily sad songs. Just, painfully beautiful. These are a few of my favourite ones...

• Bulletproof Weeks by Matt Nathanson
• Colorblind by Counting Crows
• Fast Car by Tracy Chapman
• How to Save a Life by the Fray
• To Build a Home by the Cinematic Orchestra
• Breathe Me by Sia
• Letting Cables Sleep by Bush
• Holocaust by Big Star
• Concrete Angel by Martina McBride
• Ruby's Arms by Tom Waits
• The Stable Song by Gregory Alan Isakov
• Who Said? by Pink
• Life After You by Daughtry
• Small Bump by Ed Sheeran
• Vienna by the Fray
• My Kind of Love by Emile Sande
• Broken Angel by Boyce Avenue

And these are just a few, but they never fail to get me into a wild state of emotion. 

My blog has been marked as spam...

And I'm not sure why, but I'd like the spam warning to go away :(

I'm not a spammer. Just an anonymous.

Yours unspammingly,
me.

When I don't reply to texts, he comes down two flights of stairs to pull my hair... and

I just can't seem to win.

Today, I was truant. Very truant. I skipped three session of GMED class, because the worksheet was hard and none of the four guys in that class that I'd consider my "friends" decided to explain the centroids, even though they knew I'd missed the class since I was stuck with the VP. Thanks, guys... again. Really. Thanks -_- (Also because one of my friends dropped GMED this morning, and decided to give me his worksheet and some pointers about the centroids before class, and we ended up discussing everything but that...)

And then my name just DIDN'T appear on the Communication Studies list, for either group. When we finally got to the class, we find out it's like a lecture session with dozens of kids and two teachers. We were grouped with two classes of about thirty lower sixers and about twenty upper sixers, including my super senior acquaintance. Imagine my horror. Distractions just tun up and buck today. I sat at a table with a group of friends who either slept, chatted, drew or daydreamed... Large classes require a maturity level we don't possess.

And then in Economics, I just wanted to sleep so badly that nothing about aggregation stuck and I could barely work out net incomes. Watch and see if mi nuh fail Economics this year.

Everyone also seemed to want to discuss my exboyfriend with me... including my exboyfriend. I... I... I don't know what to say.

Anyways. Tomorrow is another day, and it will be better. I only have one class tomorrow; Literature. Today was my full, back-to-back day and tomorrow is my mostly free day :D I promise myself that it will be amazing.

Yours optimistically,
me.

Prompt: What's it like going to school with boys after five years of all girls?

I think most of my challenge with coed school is the size... There are over twice the amount of kids here than there were at my previous school. And the hallways get packed easily.

But a couple things I've noticed:

• It's easy for your voice to get lost, when you're competing against boys who naturally have a deeper vocal range and can get louder much faster. I feel like I sorta just squeak while they bark and then the teacher forgets that I started to speak first.
• I'm a lot more conscious of what I look like. No, not applying lipgloss and curling eyelashes. But just making sure that the buttons on my shirt don't get misaligned and flash boobies, or my skirt isn't hanging awkwardly or sticking off. I just take a second more to ensure that I'm appropriate. 
• The teachers generalize. They assume that all boys are leaders of the class and the girls just fawn over the boys. They acknowledge that our passes are better, but it's never just because we are just as bright. Only because the boys are usually "busy" with things and don't focus enough or whatever. I feel like there's so much underlying sexism. 
• Sexual tension is definitely a theme now. It spices things up when you're in some sort of general assembly and notice that, "hey, that guy is cuuuuute" or something... but in a class? It's distracting. Of course.

It isn't all bad, however:

• The decent ones open doors, pull out chairs, escort you around, wait for you, offer you favours and can generally be charmed into doing your bidding just with a bat of the eyelashes. It's refreshing being thought of as delicate. Not weak, just delicate.
• The diversity among the opinions makes for an amazing class. I just can't wait until we start discussing gender roles and sexism and stuff. It won't be all "Yes, girl! I agree! Ladies rule!" but a little "Nooo stills, man to the ting!" to spice up a good debate.
• SFA dinner. Need I say more? (Of course I do.) Before, the idea of a dinner was a bunch of girls hanging out. Now it's a date. And hey, who knows? It could be amazing.

So yeah, all in all, I think it's gonna be an interesting experience getting to attend a coed school. I'm hoping to make the very best of it :D Good luck to my fellow past all girls or all boys' schoolers... or even coed schoolers. Good luck to us all!

I took a shower and all the black dye washed out of my hair... and

I had to learn how to work black rinse dye or semi-permanent dye, because that had to get sorted out before school tomorrow. Or, y'know, fire ketch fowl batty. Me being the fowl, my bleached hair being the batty and the disciplinary committee being the fiyah.

Today was the very first day of sixth form. And as such, there was an orientation session which is commonly referred to as "grubbin'".

Basically, it's the upper sixth formers or 6A students, humiliating the lower sixth formers (or upper fifth, as we were called by some clever super senior) or 6B students. They give you a crappy name, they make you yell mean stuff about yourself, partake in menial tasks which make you appear as though you're retarded- such as counting grains of sand like this: "One sand... two sand sand... three sand sand sand..." and so on and so forth.

But it DOESN'T have to suck for you.

Here is what I'd recommend to any potential grubs: Fix your attitude.

Sounds simple, huh?

Because it is.

What grubbing exists to do is to level the playing field by making everybody equals. If you go into grubbing thinking that you're too good to be humiliated, then you're gonna get it. If you go in there and segregate yourself or refuse to exit your bubble of comfort... you're gonna get it baaaad.

So open your mind to do doing silly stupid stuff, calling the seniors stupidness like 'Super amazing super senior high excellency the super' or trying to blow out the Sun or kissing a yellow balloon with a sad face drawn on until it smiles; i.e., until they tell you that you look stupid enough and pass you onto another to be grubbed.

Here's the trick though- IT ENDS. Grubbing was a good two hours, maybe. If suh much. It didn't go on forever either. Time flew by. And now it's over. We've earned our places and next year, we get to do it to the next batch. It's supposed to be embarrassing. But it's not supposed to be bullying or harassment. Just some good ole humbling fun. Also, note, they're not allowed to touch you, they have to plan in advance and write it all down and present to the supervisors (nothing can be done to you unless it has the go ahead from the supervisors) and it is completely supervised by teachers. They can't make you do anything religious, sexual, degrading, can't make you eat anything, etc. 

But let it be said that I got off hella easy. I held an umbrella and fanned a super senior for most of the grubbing session. He came to be my hero. And he was ridiculously cute. And the other U6ers, for whatever reason, did not give me the hell I had anticipated simply because I kept my little smart mouth shut (or tried my hardest to- a few snide remarks mighta slipped out).

All in all, it was a decent experience.

Except that the Dean of Discipline thinks my granny uniform skirt is way too short and I am now being faced with the choice of lengthening it for tomorrow, not going to school until it is longer... or taking the one day's suspension like a man.

I think I might just sit tomorrow out. I mean, who needs to meet their teachers and get their schedule sorted out and learn? ...right?

Yours screwed-ly,
me.

I have a huge crush on a guy... and

I don't remember how to flirt.

Yep, you read that right. I don't remember how to flirt.

After being in a solid, committed relationship for over a year, some skills become so dormant that it takes a little while to wake them up.

How many people in a long term relationship actively utilize their flirting ability though? I know I'm not the only one who has this problem.

You get that cute, sweet or sexy flirty message and then... and then... and then nothing. It's like my brain chokes. What exactly should I reply?! Or not reply, as the case may be.

And how seriously should I take this? Maybe it's just a little joke. Or maybe this is serious and I might fling weh a chance here, just by not knowing what to reply.

What if I take too long to reply and make the conversation forced and awkward. Or if I reply to quickly and seem to eager or too easy?

Ugh.

But bigger issues: I haven't used my kissing skills (or perhaps lack thereof?) in a while either... maybe those are dormant too...

Yours inexperiencedly,
me.

There's toothpaste on my face... and

I have spotted my exboyfriend a grand total of four times since we broke up.

Seriously now. Why is this damn town so small? It is like he's everywhere. How am I supposed to cope?

Unfortunately, as I now don the uniform of his school, I am... to put it liberally... quite fucked.

I guess I'd better get used to walking with my head down and eyes on the ground.

but I will say, isn't it possible that this could have ended differently? What if we'd tried to be friends?

And I've heard it said over and over and over again, that past lovers cannot return to being acquaintances. But we're so very familiar with each other. It's hard to think that someone who knows you like the back of his hand... just doesn't have a place in your life anymore.

Someone who once knew a personal, private part of yourself that few others know exist.

How do you cut someone like that out of your life?

...or, y'know, at least convince them to move to a different parish. (Joking.)

Yours most cowardly,
me.